Relationship Workshop #5: How To Stop Arguing

This is the 5th video in my relationship workshop The Key to a Healthy Relationship. In this video I am going to share with you the 5th key which is How to Stop Arguing. The first thing to say is that nobody agrees all the time and when this happens in a relationship it is usually because one person is dominating the other, so only that person is getting their needs met. Disagreements are necessary for relationships to grow, deepen and to adapt to changing demands. For ‘disagreement discussions’ to be productive there are 6 rules that must be followed. I will go in to more detail in the video but here are the highlights. 1. Pick a mutually convenient time to talk 2. Stop when emotions get too strong 3. Stay on topic 4. Take it in turn to speak 5. Don’t try and resolve things all in one go 6. Record your discussion to improve your technique In the next video I will be looking at how damaging it can be to compare yourself and your relationship to others. Thank you for watching, I hope it is helpful. If you have any questions then please post your comments below and I will do my best to help. In the meantime, for more useful information visit: https://www.thebritishcbtcounsellings... ** SUBSCRIBE HERE **    / @theasmrpsychologist   ** MORE ABOUT ME ** I am the Lead Clinical Psychologist at The British CBT & Counselling Service and find that I am often the first person with whom my patients share significant and intimate thoughts and memories. I feel at ease being a therapist, I feel I can empathise with people’s distress and discomfort but don’t feel overwhelmed by it, I can understand their problem and know how to help, it has always just felt like what I should be doing. If you are interested in reading more then you may find my blog articles useful: https://www.thebritishcbtcounsellings... ** ABOUT THE BRITISH CBT & COUNSELLING SERVICE ** The British CBT & Counselling Service are Doctors of Clinical and Counselling Psychology specialising in Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) for adults and children. Featuring 12 Clinics in London, Great Missenden and Nottingham as well as offering counselling online via Skype, the BCBT provide a team of fully qualified therapists and psychologists that offer a range of psychological therapies including Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT). For more information visit: https://www.thebritishcbtcounsellings... ** BOOKS I HAVE WRITTEN ** Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Eating Disorders: A Comprehensive Treatment Guide: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Cognitive-Be... How to Get Pregnant Fast: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Pregnant... ** USEFUL LINKS ** About Dr Gray ► https://www.thebritishcbtcounsellings... Blog Articles ► https://www.thebritishcbtcounsellings... The BCBT Service ► https://www.thebritishcbtcounsellings... Twitter ►   / britishcbt   Facebook ►   / thebritishcbtcounsellingservice   LinkedIn ►   / the-british-cbt-&-counselling-service